Wedding registries can be a tricky subject nowadays, here are few tips from a wedding planner and newly-wed, aka me!
Time For An Upgrade
It's pretty common nowadays for couples to live together prior to marriage. If you fit in to this category, you might feel like you've already got a stocked kitchen and linen closet, registering for wedding gifts can seem pointless. Or is it? Chances are some of your household items were purchased on a tight budget, or they're lingering around from your college or single days. Have a look around the house, which items would you love to replace? How about a fancy new vacuum, fluffy matching towels or new every day cutlery to replace the set still hanging around from your fiancée's bachelor days? Upgrade!
Big Ticket Items
If you're still not convinced you need to register for the whole enchilada of housewares, consider adding larger items to your list like furniture (really helpful if you're moving in to your first place), large appliances, or websites that allow guests to contribute funds towards your honeymoon or purchasing a home. My husband and I registered for a dining table and matching bench and our family was happy to contribute knowing that we would enjoy it daily for many years to come.
Make It A Date
Whether you're shop-a-holics or retail-phobic, expect to spend at least a few hours at a store when registering. Typically, you need to book an appointment in advance. It's a marathon, not a sprint. There will be arguments over everything from picking a towel colour to how many place settings you really need. When you're all finished, treat yourself to lunch or dinner out at a restaurant and make the whole outing a date night!
Registering is important for both bridal shower and wedding gifts. If you prefer not to register at all, usually a signal to your friends and family that monetary gifts are preferred, your guests are not obligated to follow suit. Plenty of traditionalists like stubborn Aunt Ethel, or of any generation really, prefer to give a tangible gift rather than cash or cheque. That's their prerogative. Registering is important in order to help guide guests towards what you and your fiancée need or like. Aside from childhood lists to Santa, it's one of the few times you get to tell people exactly what to buy you! If you don't register at all, then you run the risk of receiving 3 toasters or things you have no use for. (Not everyone has gotten the hang of modern day bridal registries, so it's not unheard of to still receive duplicates. That's why there are gift receipts and return policies.)
While some people think it will spoil the surprise to check up on their registry and see what's been purchased already, you should check in every once in a while. Make sure you edit quantities, remove items you had a change of heart about, or add new gadgets and items you may have thought of after the fact. Most department stores have online registry systems that are easy to navigate.
Any more tips you'd like to add? Leave a comment if you have some great suggestions.